Pain Does Not Teach

Kids' Feet

We've got this notion that people — kids, especially — need to suffer a little bit when they do something wrong, so that next time, they'll think, "Last time I suffered. I don't think I'll do that again."

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Science Can Be Personal

Scientists and Wolves

In an earlier post, I started compiling the passages I like best from the first chapter of Before Philosophy, because there's something in there that

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Then Do It

Kids' Feet

Did you say yes to your kid? Did you say no? Whatever you said, if you don't follow through, you're demonstrating that your words don't mean much and they can predictably tune you out.

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Say Yes as Often as You Can

Kids' Feet

Your kids have to accommodate your needs and wishes, because your needs and wishes matter, true. That'll work best if you get in the habit of saying yes to them.

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They Have to Accommodate

Kids' Feet

Kids' needs and wishes matter. Their creativity, their malleability, their resilience, their openness — those aspects of their character matter, a lot.

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A Game of Equals

Kids' Feet

I see family life as a game. There are rules. There's also an objective: having as nice a time as possible while making sure everyone's needs get met.

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Chill Out, Jo-Cam

Joseph Campbell

The other day a friend of mine asked me what I have against the mythologist Joseph Campbell. Every time the guy's name comes up, I swear; also,

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No Double Standards

Kids' Feet

Let's get clear. In different situations, different rules prevail. You take your shoes off in one person's house; at someone's else, you don't.

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