This is the fifth installment of an eight-part series.
Did you say yes to your kid? Did you say no? Whatever you said, if you don't follow through, you're demonstrating that your words don't mean much and they can predictably tune you out.
This is about trust. Kids have to trust that if you say yes, they can rejoice accordingly. It's also about sanity. You've got to give yourself your own personal blessing to say no to things that aren't good for them (or you). When you know you can do that — when you've got that base-level security beneath your feet — everything you do say yes to feels more peaceful.
Consistent follow-through is fundamental to a peaceful home life. It demonstrates that the rules of the game are reliable. It shows everyone involved how to win.
(To be continued next week.)